Posts Tagged ‘Mothers’

For hurting daughters

In 07 Observations on 2015/12/29 at 12:00 AM

What I am writing you now is crucial for your peace of soul.

The way to heal the wounds our mothers inflicted on us is through forgiving them for causing these severe wounds.

It is difficult to forgive, but if we wish to receive our Lord’s forgiveness, we must forgive our mothers in particular.

Forgiveness is an act of the will. It is one of the most difficult things to do, but it must be done if we want mercy for ourselves and peace of soul. We will receive mercy as we mete it out.

We must be humble and remember our own faults, failings and sins. We have need for mercy and this personal need for mercy can lead us to compassionately forgive the hurts our mothers inflicted on us by their faults, failings and sins. Christ endured the sufferings we inflicted on him by our faults, failings and sins…and He who is mercy Himself, forgives us when we are sorry for our sins and ask for His forgiveness. His forgiveness enables us to be merciful towards our mothers and forgive them.

We actually are acting for our own good by forgiving them. The more we recognize our need for mercy, the easier it will for be merciful to our mothers. Your mother is in great distress as mine was as she approached the end of her earthly life.

Nothing beats the consolation of forgiving them; it brings a peace, calm and serenity to the soul, freeing us from the cancer of anger, resentment that so distress our souls.

Time does not heal anything. Only God can heal hearts. It is God’s mercy towards us that must impel us to forgive.

Pray the Our Father aloud to your mother, stressing “forgives us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

Praying for both of you,


“She opens to us the way to the Kingdom of Heaven”

In 01 Daily Meditations on 2011/05/19 at 9:12 AM
Your love for Our Lady should be more lively, more supernatural. Don’t just go to the Virgin Mary to ask her for things. You should also go to give: give her your affection; give her your love for her divine Son; and show her your affection with deeds of service to others, who are also her children. (The Forge, 137)

Let us return once again to our everyday experience and see how we behave with our earthly mothers. What does a mother want most of all from her children, from those who are flesh of her flesh and blood of her blood? Her greatest desire is to have them close to her. When the children grow up and it is no longer possible to have them beside her, she waits impatiently for news from them, and everything that happens to them, from the slightest illness to the most important events, concerns her deeply.

Look: in the eyes of our Mother Mary we never cease to be little, because she opens to us the way to the Kingdom of Heaven, which will only be given to those who become little children. We should never separate ourselves from Our Lady. How should we honour her? By keeping close to her, talking to her, showing her that we love her, pondering in our hearts the scenes of her life on earth and telling her about our struggles, successes and failures. (Friends of God, 289-290)

“Help of Christians”

In 01 Daily Meditations on 2011/05/14 at 10:41 AM
Auxilium christianorum! — Help of Christians, says the litany of Loreto with confidence. Have you tried to repeat that aspiration in time of difficulty? If you do it with faith, with the tenderness of a daughter or a son, you will discover the power of the intercession of your Holy Mother Mary, who will lead you to victory. (Furrow, 180)

It is the moment to turn to your Blessed Mother in Heaven, so that she may take you into her arms and win for you a glance of mercy from her Son. And try at once to make some practical resolutions: put a stop once and for all, even though it hurts, to that little defect that holds you back, as God and you yourself know so well. Pride, sensuality and a lack of supernatural spirit will combine forces to suggest to you: ‘That? But what a small and insignificant little thing it is!’ Don’t play with the temptation. Instead, answer: ‘Yes, in this too I will surrender myself to the divine call.’ And you will be right, for love is shown especially in little things. Normally the sacrifices that Our Lord asks of us, even the most difficult ones, refer to tiny details, but they are as continuous and invaluable as the beating of our heart.

How many mothers have you known who have been the heroines of some epic or extraordinary event? Few, very few. Yet you and I know many mothers who are indeed heroic, truly heroic, who have never figured in anything spectacular, who will never hit the headlines, as they say. They lead lives of constant self‑denial, happy to curtail their own likes and preferences, their time, their opportunities for self‑expression or success, so that they can carpet their children’s lives with happiness. (Friends of God, 134)

Christian Women

In 01 Daily Meditations on 2011/04/09 at 8:05 PM

Christ came to do the will of His Father.  He did. Mary wanted to do the will of God.  She did.

Saints throughout the ages have wanted to do the will of God and have done it with the grace of God.   So can you.

Women today need positive models.  They are bombarded with false models by the media; models who do not exemplify Christian virtues.   Or as Psalm 12 says: “…idolizing those who are not worth it.

To paraphrase  Thackeray and  Shakespeare, combining them: While the world madly pursues what is not worth having ($, pleasure, power, status) which signify nothing.  You can be like those women who strove for Him who is worth everything and who died that we might live eternally.

Women of faith are characterized by faith, courage, and commitment but mainly by an indestructible love of God.  If we are aware of Christ’s presence, we obey Him and entrust our soul to Him.

Faith must be translated into action.  Faith that never goes beyond the mind is almost useless. (Remember Satan believes in God,but doesn’t  put it into action.)  FAITH translated into action means that one has such a love of God that one is committed to God above all else.  Love of God is commitment to Him and His will in every single aspect of life.

It is a fact that the US & Canada are the only places that have not been subjected to an official persecution.  However, notice what has and is  happening now here: the attacks on moral principles & human rights by the courts and other government agencies.

How are you dealing with this?

In his short but powerful and very readable encyclical: SAVED IN HOPE (SPES SALVI), Pope Benedict states: “God is the foundation of hope, not any god, but the God who has a human face, and who has love us to the end; each one of us and humanity in its entirety.  His Kingdom is not an imaginary hereafter, situated in a future that will never arrive; His Kingdom is present wherever he is loved and where His love reaches us. His love alone gives us the possibility of soberly persevering day by day…in a world which is by its very nature imperfect…”