In his Vol. 2 of IN CONVERSATION WITH GOD, Francis Fernandez present the picture of a recently arrived spectator on the first Good Friday. The visitor see three men, each heading for death on the cross he carries. Each carried his cross in a different way just as we today can carry ours in one of their three ways:
One can carry his cross complaining, filled with anger, and even cursing God. That cross has no meaning and is as useless as it was to the “bad” thief.
Another way to carry our cross is with resignation or acceptance (because there is no alternative). Here there is the possibility of change by conversion as in the case of the “good” thief.
The third way is embracing our cross with love for the love of God, and discovering that sorrow, suffering and contradictions cease to be merely negative as soon as the cross is seen to be not just one’s own but that of Jesus. Jesus is an image of hope; he is beside the sufferer and actually will carry our cross.